When you picture you and your soulmate together - are you sure the two of you are in the right frame?
When looking at our underlying values in a relationship people often ask me whether it really is best if they find a partner with the same values as them. While of course this can create a great deal of harmony in some areas it doesn’t necessarily promise the perfect relationship. Partners with different value sets can achieve as much happiness and relationship longevity as partners with matching value sets.
So what is it that makes the difference? What are the key ingredients to finding a nourishing, fulfilling love with the soulmate of your dreams?...
Can't wait to see Finnish documentary by Tonislav Hristov.
What if three wasn’t always a crowd? I’m not talking about embarking on a more adventurous sex life…just a little third entity in your relationships.
I was having dinner with some friends the other night and the host couple started getting into an argument over the choice of music blaring from the ipod.
The female was shouting at her husband that none of the assembled guests wanted to listen to full volume thrash metal over their raspberry cheesecake and would prefer to be able to talk to each other rather than scream across the table. The husband shouted back that it was his birthday and he gets to choose the music.
Admittedly the ear-crunching wail wasn’t totally my cup of tea – but I could certainly see both sides of the couples argument.
Did you know there are two key moments in every day that are total game changers? Two moments where you can decide to create the best relationship ever or chip away at it a little bit more until it finally crumbles into a heap of sad memories and photos you can’t bring yourself to look at?
And those two moments are…
Have you ever found yourself in a dead relationship believing somehow that the other person is your rock and without them you would be lost, without security and strength? When all the time the strength you needed was actually within you yourself…
I was travelling on a plane recently and coming into London we experienced some terrifying turbulence due to high winds. I don’t mind flying per se, but the reality is that when it’s a smooth journey I feel ‘safe’ and I don’t even think about being on a plane. Turbulence however, brings me starkly back to the reality of where I am (in a tin box at 30,000 ft) and causes panic.
Confidence on a first date is something we all want to have. But when the heart rate goes up and that negative voice in our heads is telling us this date is going to be a disaster, it can be difficult to summon up the confidence we know we have deep down inside of us. What we need is a strategy. A clear plan to give our brain something else to focus on when the pressure is on.
Now, okay, sure, the last thing you should eat on a first date is a PIE! However, I want to show you how PIES can help you be the most confident, charismatic date (or partner) EVER! Are you ready to date in 4 dimensions? Here we go.
P is for…
Delightful to talk to Sandy Weiner on blog talk radio at FirstLastDate this evening. Check out the recording of our chat here: "Crazy in Love: Maintain a Lasting Loving Relationship" - and listen to our tips, advice, stories and personal experiences around how to maintain loving relationships.
If we can begin to understand our own and our partners 'deepest values' we can start on the amazing journey of co-creating exciting, happy, healthy relationships that keep the love alive every day!
I'm looking forward to talking to Sandy Weiner on blogtalkradio at LastFirst Date on Monday 25th November at 7.30pm EST. And I love this TedX talk by her all about loving like a Tootsie Roll Pop. What I call being marshmallow on the inside and steel on the outside when it comes to love and relationships. In this talk Sandy talks open and honestly about the importance of learning to love and value yourself in a relationship.
Breaking News! The perfect kiss for a woman is not necessarily the perfect kiss for a man…
I love dancing
I love my iPad mini
I love Downton Abbey
I love crispy cheese on toast with mustard on the side
I love my partner
I really do love all these things. But in totally different ways and on completely different levels. So how can we use the same word – ‘love’ – to mean so many things?
I woke up thinking about love this morning. Specifically I was thinking about how one could distill love down to a simple mathematical formula. I was one of those odd kids who loved maths as a child. All those symbols and equations that always resulted in an answer that could only be one of two things – right or wrong. Maths was for me the language of certainty. Until I got to A level when topics like differentiation and arithmetic progressions made no sense and maths suddenly lost all connection to the real world as I knew it. So I switched to French – the language of love.
But this morning I was reminded of my old relationship with maths and started playing with a little relationship arithmetic. And I came up with The Loving Relationship Equation…
A friend talked to me the other day about the disconnection in her relationship with her husband and how to handle it.
Disconnection is a familiar experience for many, if not most, couples. Sometimes the disconnect is brief and serves to give the individuals in the relationship some space. But when the disconnection goes on for long periods of time it can become harder and harder to reconnect.
First of all – what do we mean by ‘Relationship Disconnect?’
I was reminded of this song the other day in the gym. So here it is for you - a beautiful song on a beautiful day.
Who hasn't been furious with their partner - and then not remembered why?!
It happens all the time. When it comes to an argument or cross words - we forget most of what our partner says, nearly all of what they do, but we never forget how they made us feel. And it's how they make us feel that can make or break our relationship.
But when it comes to the difficult times - why do we even feel the things we feel in the first place?
We’ve all done it at some point in our lives – imagine ourselves with a different partner in an alternative relationship. And somehow it’s perfect. They are perfect. We are perfect. Everything is shiny and bright and easy and happy and often more wealthy, a little slimmer, and no one is fighting about who is taking out the bins or rinsing out the bath.
But this hypothetical love can be dangerous...
Love is in the air! It’s Valentines Day and some people love it. For many others the sight of so many people ‘being in love’ can be a grim prospect. If you’re reluctantly single or miserably hitched a day festooned with endless pink reminders of ‘eternal love’ can be eternally depressing.
We casually bandy the word ‘love’ around every day of our lives. Whether we’re talking about our partner, a new pair of jeans or our preference for cottage cheese with pineapple chunks. We’ve become very much accustomed to this word ‘love’. So, before we go any further, let’s have a look at what we even mean by love.
Read Spiral Into Love and...
- Understand your strengths in love
- Look for the best in your partner – not the worst!
- Learn your Love Colour
- Learn your Partner's Love Colour
- Find the perfect match for you
- Avoid those familiar and annoying arguments
- Increase your day to day happiness in your relationship
- Be the envy of your bickering friends
- And then help them spiral into love too!
- Create the love life you dream of – starting today!
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